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Getting ready to move into the New Year

Reflections and Resolutions……….

As I look back at what I have accomplished in 2009 and think about what I want to do in 2010, setting tasks and objectives, to keep me focused, will help me achieve my goals.

What might you do to achieve your goals?  Make a list – what do you want to do…….

§  Set realistic goals of what you would like to accomplish this year.

§  Make a top 5 list of your objectives.

§  Take your list and write out what you need to do to get there.

§  January 1 – start doing one of those things to help you achieve your objectives.

Think about what you want out of life and start doing the thingsyou need to, to get you there.

Wishing you much luck and happiness for a smart, wonderful and fulfilling 2010

Add comment December 31, 2009

Where Divorce Ends, Your Destiny Begins Telesummit

YOU CAN HAVE WHAT YOU WANT!

YOU CAN LEAD A LIFE FULL OF JOY AND HAPPINESS!

“Where Divorce Ends, Your Destiny Begins Telesummit” which will be taking place  Monday and Wednesday Evenings,  9:00 – 10:00 pm EST beginning on October 12, 2009.

The Telesummit I will be featuring 8 teleseminars with 8 leading experts in the field of moving forward during, through and after divorce.

I am the first featured guest on this telesummit.  Tune in tonight and learn what to expect about the emotional and legal aspects of divorce, so that you are better prepared to move forward with focus and confidence, while saving time and money.

Click on the link http://www.lauracampbellcompanies.com/where-divorce-ends-your-destin/ to reserve your free spot.

Add comment October 14, 2009

Reclaim your space after divorce

So your ex has moved out – now what? A guide to moving your home from “we” to “me”

Ever wonder how you can change your space from “we” to “me”.  It’s important to create your own space and develop new memories post divorce.

Please click on the click to read more about tips and strategies as to how to create your post divorce home. http://www.more.ca/relationships/single-life/reclaim-your-space-after-divorce/a/22636

I wrote this article for More magazine’s online edition. More magazine is a publication which celebrates women over 40.  Men should also feel comfortable reading this article as it offers great insight into moving on post divorce; tips that apply to both men and women.  If you would like to browse through this magazine click on the following link: www.more.ca

Ah, my space, and loving it. Relaxing in the surroundings I call home. I’m doing it in style, my way – and it’s certainly far from perfect. But, that isn’t to say I can’t change my space from “me” to “we” again, but for now, this is what makes me happy.

Add comment August 23, 2009

Home alone: the post-divorce social scene

 All too often I hear people talk about having nothing to do on the weekend. While it can seem lonely at times, there are things you can do to help make new friends, or find ways to enjoy the weekend.

 

Please click the link to read more about tips and strategies as to how to accomplish a post-divorce social life.

http://www.more.ca/relationships/single-life/home-alone-the-post-divorce-social-scene/a/20793

I wrote this article for More magazine’s online edition. More magazine is a publication which celebrates women over 40. Men should also feel comfortable reading this article as it offers great insight into moving on postdivorce; tips that apply to both men and women. If you would like to browse through this magazine click on the following link: www.more.ca

 

It doesn’t have to be lonely, get out there and enjoy yourself.

Have a fabulous weekend and a great week!

Add comment April 1, 2009

Divorce’s collateral damage

 

Sometimes you don’t just lose your ex, you lose your

extended family and friends as well.

 

There are many “emotional” adjustments you have to make to build a positive life postdivorce. One of those is getting used to the fact that many friends and extended family you had while married, are no longer there for you once divorced.

Evaluating what you need to do, to let go of some of these once important relationships, requires coping strategies which will lead you towards achieving a smart divorce. Please click on the link to read more about tips and ideas as to how to navigate this new phase in your life postdivorce.

 

http://www.more.ca/relationships/single-life/divorce-s-collateral-damage/a/19942

 

I wrote this article for More magazine’s online edition. More magazine is a publication which celebrates women over 40. Men should also feel comfortable reading this article as it offers great insight into moving on and how to prepare yourself for new relationships postdivorce; tips that apply to both men and women. If you would like to browse through this magazine click on the following link: www.more.ca

Add comment January 29, 2009

An ending to 2008 and a new beginning…….

Reflections and Resolutions……….

As I look back at what I have accomplished in 2008 and think about what I want to do in 2009, I realize that setting goals and objectives, to keep me focused, will help me achieve my dreams.

As the Nike slogan says – Just Do It – Meaning stop wondering about what you would do to make you happier, make a list of those things that will bring you happiness and start doing something about it now.  How are you going to accomplish this?

§  Set realistic goals of what you would like to accomplish this year.

§  Make a top 5 list of your objectives.

§  Take your list and write out what you need to do to get there.

§  January 1 – start doing one of those things to help you achieve your objectives.

Think about what you want out of life and start doing the things

you need to, to get you there.

Wishing you much luck and happiness for a smart, wonderful and fulfilling 2009

Add comment December 28, 2008

Taking doom and gloom out of the divorce process

Taking the doom and gloom out of the divorce process can sound like a daunting process. But, it need not be if you are smart about your divorce.

 

With a smart divorce, you realize that the pain of divorce can be lessened dramatically by properly handling the competing emotional and legal sides of divorce. And, that you deal with the emotional side of divorce outside of the legal system. If you are able to do this then you are more likely to gain perspective on your legal options early on; this will assist you in making informed decisions, protect you from the damage that uncontrolled emotions can cause; and guide you in meeting your children’s best interest.

 

Being smart about divorce also means arming yourself with knowledge about the divorce process. There are many ways to research divorce. Here are a few ways that I can help you navigate the divorce process:

 

  • Reading the book, The Smart Divorce – available at amazon.com, amazon.ca, barnesandnoble.com and wherever books are sold.
  • My One-on-One divorce consulting can help you think strategically about the divorce process. one_on_one_consulting-pdf
  • Enrolling in one of The Smart Divorce workshops.

 

There was a recent article in The Toronto Star which outlines the benefits of The Smart Divorce workshops. http://www.thestar.com/Comment/article/541734

 

If you think that any of this would be helpful for you, please don’t hesitate to contact me at info@thesmartdivorce.com

 

Wishing you all the best during this difficult time,

Deborah

Add comment November 25, 2008

When your ex has somone new

When you ex has someone new

 

Feeling at peace with singledom when your

ex has a new partner

 

 

The emotional tide experienced through divorce doesn’t always end when your divorce becomes final. Just as you are moving forward, feeling positive, you’re faced with a new reality……..your ex has a new partner. Although you may or may not have a new relationships too, sometimes new emotions or old wounds surface.

 

Evaluating what you need to do to achieve happiness and hope in a new relationship requires thought, evaluation and introspection. Please click on the link to read more about tips and strategies as to how to navigate this new phase in your life postdivorce.

 

http://more.ca/relationships/single-life/when-your-ex-has-someone-new/a/18818

 

I wrote this article for More magazine’s online edition. More magazine is a publication which celebrates women over 40. Men should also feel comfortable reading this article as it offers great insight into moving on and how to prepare yourself for new relationships postdivorce; tips that apply to both men and women. If you would like to browse through this magazine click on the following link: www.more.ca

Add comment November 16, 2008

10 frequently asked divorce questions

 

The divorce process is often fraught with many questions. How do you know it’s the right thing to do? Do you stay together for the sake of the kids? What if I don’t trust my spouse any more and so on.

 

Many of these questions are answered in an article appearing in Homemakers magazine. Please click on the link to have some of your questions answered.

10-frequently-asked-divorce-questions

 

Being smart about divorce means asking lots of questions so that you are informed – and doing the research to answer these questions, so that you can answer for yourself – how to move forward with focus hope and confidence.

Add comment November 4, 2008

All alone for the holidays?

 

The Jewish High Holidays are just days away, Thanksgiving is just around the corner and I’m sure many are counting down the shopping days until Christmas. Celebrating holidays can be a stressful time when you’re divorced – but it doesn’t need to be.

 

I’ve written about this before, but I know it is top of mind for many, so I felt I should blog about it again. If you find yourself without your children or extended family at a time when you traditionally celebrated with them, it can be a sad and lonely experience without them now.

 

Here’s a little reminder of what I have previously posted and tips to get you though.

 

Who says you have to celebrate those days the traditional route or the way you celebrated when you were married? If you find yourself alone, create new meaning for these celebrations and enjoy them on your own terms. Here are some tips to get you through these celebrations.

 

 

  • Create new traditions. If the old traditions are too painful to follow, let them go. Instead of trying to re-create the past, create your own positive future.

  • Throw your own party and invite friends or family who have nowhere to go during this time.

 

  • Make a special effort to take care of yourself physically and emotionally. Don’t try drowning your sorrows with alcohol or food.  Doing anything to excess when you are sad or worried is rarely a smart move.

  • Be good to yourself. Go for a manicure or massage, buy a great CD, catch up on your favorite hobby. Treat yourself the way you would treat a good friend or family member.

 

  • If you are feeling overwhelmed and vulnerable, speak with a trusted friend, therapist or someone in your support group.

  • Plan ahead. If it looks like you’re going to be spending the time on your own, find an interesting activity or a place to travel so you can be with other people.

 

  • Surround yourself with people, whether from your support network, your family, your church or synagogue. You may even be able to attend a special support group holiday function.

  • Contemplate how you would like your life to look like post-divorce and write down what you need to do to get there. Start doing one of those things now.

  • Stay in control by making lists of what you need to do and checking each item off as you accomplish it.

  • Use any time alone to do the things you’ve been putting off — catching up on paperwork; catching up on sleep; reading the great book that’s been sitting unopened for weeks or months; calling the friend you’ve been meaning to reconnect with.

  • If putting on a dinner or party in the family home doesn’t feel right, try doing something for others off site. For example, you could visit a retirement home and read to those whose families can’t be with them during the holidays.

  • Continue to make the holidays special for your children. Include them in developing new traditions. Ask them how they would like to celebrate.

 

  • Plan ahead how your children are going to spend the holidays. Avoid the stress of figuring things out last minute. This will give you a sense of comfort, relief and control.

  • Be creative and flexible. If your children are not celebrating the holidays with you, think about making another day during holiday time a special day together.

  • If your children are going to be with their other parent, phone them and wish them a happy holiday. Let them know that you are thinking about them.

  • Don’t make your children feel that they have to take care of you during this special time. Send them the message that the holidays are a special time and you want them to enjoy themselves.

  • Spare the occasional good thought for your ex.  Your marriage likely had some good moments. Remembering those times occasionally will help you lift yourself out of your bitterness about your current situation.

 

Wishing everyone good health, happiness and prosperity; peace and love.

Add comment September 22, 2008

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