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How To Achieve A Smart Divorce
Divorce is a process:
- understand the “emotional divorce” versus the “legal divorce”
- understand the various dispute resolutions available
- make informed decisions
- minimize the financial, legal and emotional stress
Be SMART about your divorce
State your goals and objectives at the beginning. Make sure these are realistic.
Maximize your information and knowledge base.
Avoid reacting to your emotions.
Retain the best possible divorce team your budget allows.
Treat your divorce as a business transaction.
How to start The Smart Divorce
- Develop your support network – therapist, support groups, clergy, divorce consultant and friends.
- Choose your lawyer carefully - go to a consultation before you decide to retain
- Be informed. Understand the dispute resolutions – do-it-yourself; negotiation; mediation; collaborative family law; arbitration; litigation.
- Put your children’s best interests first.
- Hire the right team of professionals based on your needs – parenting expert; financial adviser and others.
- Get your finances in order.
- Stay organized – create your divorce notebook and divorce journal.
- Have a vision for how you want your life to unfold and develop strategies to get there.
1 comment February 12, 2008
Smarting About Your Divorce?
There is a way to have a smart divorce and move on in a healthier, less painful way. Hi, I’m Deborah Moskovitch, a divorce consultant and educator and author of
The Smart Divorce: Proven Strategies and Valuable Advice from 100 Top Divorce Lawyers, Financial Advisers, Counselors and Other Experts.
I created this blog for the same reason that I wrote the The Smart Divorce. I realized that most people going through divorce are confused and don’t know where to turn to for information. I learned that many people feel alone and are looking for some impartial advice. That is what I provide through “The Smart Divorce”—the understanding and education about the divorce process so that people can make decisions with confidence and move on with the rest of their lives - intact and without regret.
Use this blog as your support group, educator and guide. I invite you to share your comments, ideas, thoughts, concerns, feelings….anything and everything about divorce. You will see, you’re not alone. I also invite you to visit my website at www.thesmartdivorce.com. The secret to being smart about divorce means managing the emotional side and the legal side of divorce separately. If you can do this, you are likely to save time, trouble, and money on your way to a smart divorce and a better life. We have a responsibility to ourselves, our children, our future and their future. I look forward to hearing from you………Deborah
4 comments February 11, 2008
I’ll be Mine for Valentine’s Day
What’s the true meaning of Valentines Day? While today it appears to represent a day of love and romance, according to folklore, it actually originated with Roman Christians who were martyred during the third century A.D.; three of whom were saints named Valentine. It’s fascinating how the day, February 14, evolved from being one of honoring martyrs to becoming a day associated with romantic love and turning into a significant commercial success enjoyed by many retailers!
So, while Valentines Day is associated with romance, flowers, cards and chocolate, it’s not a statutory holiday; you don’t get the day off and you don’t have to celebrate if you don’t want to. Then, what do you do if you find yourself dateless with no one to send a special Valentine greeting? The answer is easy, you could:
- Skip the holiday all together. Ignore it and treat it like another regular day.
- Use it as an excuse to buy yourself a beautiful bouquet of flowers, box of chocolates or bottle of champagne.
- Celebrate it with your children and surprise them with chocolate goodies that you don’t usually let them have.
- Have some friends over and indulge in a decadent chocolate fondue party.
- Do a good deed. This will make you feel good and someone else too.
- Celebrate love, and love yourself. Do something special for yourself.
To cap it off, many couples I know don’t celebrate it either. The truth is, if it doesn’t make you comfortable, you don’t have to play!
3 comments February 11, 2008
