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Divorce is a process. This blog was created to inform, educate and empower you to think about all aspects of divorce; from the emotional and legal divorce to parenting, dating, creating a better life postdivorce and so on. Tips, ideas and information about divorce are offered throughout.
My name is Deborah Moskovitch and I went through a seven-year battle that nearly overwhelmed me emotionally and financially. Now I am using my experience, as well as insights that I have garnered from top divorce lawyers, financial advisers, counselors and other experts to help people get a “smart divorce,” as they move through life post-divorce and to advise them on how to position themselves for a better life and move on. I am a divorce consultant and educator, helping people choose their lawyers, strategize their approach to divorce, and deal with the negative emotions that can make divorce worse than it has to be. My goal is to help people manage the divorce process in a healthier, less painful way.
Based on extensive research through personal interviews with leading divorce professionals across North America, I wrote the book The Smart Divorce: Proven Strategies and Valuable Advice from 100 Top Divorce Lawyers, Financial Advisers, Counselors and Other Experts (Chicago Review Press, July, 2007). The Smart Divorce is available wherever books are sold, amazon.com, amazon.ca, barnesandnoble.com and many other webseller book sites.
Use this blog as your resource. I have identified many sites which are an excellent source of information. I invite you to post your comments and share your thoughts. I look forward to hearing from you.
To learn more about The Smart Divorce visit www.thesmartdivorce.com
The information contained in this blog is general in nature and does not constitute authoritative legal advice. Laws vary according to state or jurisdiction. This blog should only be used in consultation with a licensed lawyer properly familiar with the specific legal matter in question.
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Sandra Finkelstein | March 11, 2008 at 2:59 am
Deborah, this is a great site, thank you. I would like some insight to any precedence regarding inheritance and alimony. It is my understanding that any inheritance that is kept out of the marriage (I am separated, filing for divorce) is not part of the “equation”. My ex has tried and will try again when we sit down to renegotiate the alimony to bring in this money.
Our parenting and separation agreement has been signed for two years and will be up in Aug./08. I was married for 7 1/2 years, lived together one year so in total just over 8 years. I have been informed that I will receive up to 5 years of alimony. While I do expect that it may go down how do I keep the inheritance money out of it. Is there precendence for this??
On a completely different note, I do speaking to women called: TO BE OR NOT TO BE THAT IS THE CHOICE. It is my journey over the last decade, in self-discovery and encouraging and challenging women to make changes in their life, if she chooses that will honour and love her; helping her find her truth. I would love to talk to you more and see if there is a way that I can impact the lives of the women that you touch to tell them YOU CAN DO IT!
Thank you for your time,
Sandra Finkelstein
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The Smart Divorce | March 17, 2008 at 9:29 pm
Dear Sandra,
Great question. This is exactly why you need to consult with an experienced family law lawyer who can explain the law to you in your jurisdiction. You should expect to learn what to do -and what not to do. Two hours of a lawyer’s time might save you hundreds or more dollars and much heartache in the long run.
Good luck.
Deborah
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taylor | May 30, 2008 at 11:47 pm
Could you recommend a divorce consultant in my area? I live in Northern Ca. south of Sacramento and east of San Francisco – I can travel either direction I live in stockton. Thank you
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The Smart Divorce | June 3, 2008 at 2:03 pm
Thank you for your inquiry. As I am a divorce educator, with resources and colleagues across North America, I do provide a teleconference option for The Smart Divorce consulting service. For more information, please call: 1-866-695-0270.
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J. Richard Kulerski | February 1, 2009 at 6:58 pm
First, I must compliment the tremendous job you are doing. You help people and it is obvious you love doing it.
I’m a lawyer, but I’m one of the good guys. I have something to say that the public needs to hear. My message provides divorcing spouses with the exact words their soon-to-be exes must hear them say if they hope to minimize the pain and cost of their divorce.
I am a mediator, a collaborative divorce practitioner, and a staunch advocate of the settlement approach to divorce; but this is not enough. Society has not taught us how to interact with our partner during the other 22 hours a day – when the pros are not present to help us communicate. This is where I can help, but I am brand new at this. This is my first time EVER blog comment and you are the first person I am contacting.
My insights help people. They are eye opening, proven effective, pure of heart, and are based on Harvard’s interest based negotiation model.(Did I mention long-awaited?) I hope to share what I have learned with you and your laudable website and blog. You are the frst person I am approaching. I do not know where to start, and I ask you to please help me help people.
Please take a peek at my work to check out its potential value to your readership.
Richard Kulerski
P.S. I am happy to send you a hard cover or ebook, and I ask for your address(es).
It is one thing to want a sensible divorce, but it quite another thing to know precisely what to do to get one. I have stumbled upon the answer.
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Carolyne L | April 19, 2010 at 11:10 pm
Richard: Please send email to above address. I will share your information with clients who may require assistance. Of course I can accept no liability as to outcomes, but it is always good to have a battery of contact points when clients ask for help in regard to areas outside my (near 30 years) own expertise.
Cordially,
Carolyne L
Carolyne Realty Corp.
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Bonnie Russell | February 14, 2009 at 8:59 pm
For a separate reality check, see http://www.FamilyLawCourts.com
Make the courthouse the last stop, not the first.
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Patricia Burley | September 2, 2009 at 2:36 pm
I just wanted to let everyone know about this site that I just came across. It looks like people who are divorced share their settlements and divorce info with people who are going through a divorce and people who are contemplating divorce.
Very cool.
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Carolyne L | April 19, 2010 at 7:31 pm
Getting Divorced? –
(and – Should you Sell the house? or Buy out your Spouse?)
As I encounter many clients who are selling the matrimonial home as the result of a marriage breakdown, and having been through the process myself, I wrote an article to include among the many consumer education articles relative to real estate that I have written over the years, specific to questions that often need to get asked at or before divorce time.
Cordially,
Carolyne L
Carolyne Realty Corp.
http://www.Carolyne.com