http://blog.thesmartdivorce.com/2008/09/15/from-mommydaddy-to-hottie-dating-post-divorce%e2%80%a6%e2%80%a6/ Move forward with focus, hope, and confidence. Tue, 06 Jan 2009 05:31:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU hourly 1 http://blog.thesmartdivorce.com/2008/09/15/from-mommydaddy-to-hottie-dating-post-divorce%e2%80%a6%e2%80%a6/#comment-117 amy Mon, 15 Sep 2008 10:58:49 +0000 http://thesmartdivorce.wordpress.com/?p=169#comment-117 I am a single mom, fostering to adopt(not finalized). I have been dating a man for 7 months who is almost everything I would want in a man and a dad. He loves my little girl like his own(oh he does not have any children and up until lately didn't think he would want children in his life). He is taking things very slowly...we have already said the I love you's to each other....and there is a sense of connection, EXCEPT he requires so much time by himself, we only get together One night during the week, and most of the time, but not always two nights on the weekend, hardly any daytime. He will come over around 6 and spend, for lack of better description, family time with Abbie and I. On the weekend he will spend an hour in the morning, sometimes a couple of hours with us, but then retreats to his house for alone time ( and all he says he does is sleep, which is to the best of my knowledge the sideeffect of depression medicine he takes), then he usually comes back that night and spends the night. We live about 20 min drive aways from each other. I tend to get into relationships too fast, and I am wondering, am I too worried about taking things faster, just on me, or shouldn't this be progressing to where he wants to spend more time with us? He no longer invites us to his house, because I made the desision, about a month ago that we were no longer spending the night at his house ( Abbie never slept well, and I felt like it was too much on her). I do not know if I am sabotageing a good thing, or holding onto something doomed to nnot work? I am a single mom, fostering to adopt(not finalized). I have been dating a man for 7 months who is almost everything I would want in a man and a dad. He loves my little girl like his own(oh he does not have any children and up until lately didn’t think he would want children in his life). He is taking things very slowly…we have already said the I love you’s to each other….and there is a sense of connection, EXCEPT he requires so much time by himself, we only get together One night during the week, and most of the time, but not always two nights on the weekend, hardly any daytime. He will come over around 6 and spend, for lack of better description, family time with Abbie and I. On the weekend he will spend an hour in the morning, sometimes a couple of hours with us, but then retreats to his house for alone time ( and all he says he does is sleep, which is to the best of my knowledge the sideeffect of depression medicine he takes), then he usually comes back that night and spends the night. We live about 20 min drive aways from each other. I tend to get into relationships too fast, and I am wondering, am I too worried about taking things faster, just on me, or shouldn’t this be progressing to where he wants to spend more time with us? He no longer invites us to his house, because I made the desision, about a month ago that we were no longer spending the night at his house ( Abbie never slept well, and I felt like it was too much on her). I do not know if I am sabotageing a good thing, or holding onto something doomed to nnot work?

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