From dam to glam: dating after divorce
September 15, 2008 at 2:52 am 1 comment
The dating game, and how to ensure you are putting
your children’s best interests first.
It’s been said that dating is something that is good for you but can be hard on your children, because it pulls you away from them and may be confusing for them. There are no specific rules for dating when you have kids; there’s no right or wrong way to do it. Of course, your priority should still be your children, and sometimes you have to sacrifice your needs for them.
Dating postdivorce, achieving balance in your life and putting your children’s best interest first can be a challenge. Please click on the link to read more about tips and strategies as to how to navigate this new phase in your life postdivorce.
http://www.more.ca/relationships/married-life/from-dam-to-glam-dating-after-divorce/a/1800
I wrote this article for More magazine’s online edition. More magazine is a publication which celebrates women over 40. Men should also feel comfortable reading this article as it offers great insight into dating postdivorce; tips that apply to both men and women. If you would like to browse through this magazine click on the following link: www.more.ca
Knowing how to put your children’s best interests first
will give you a sense of comfort, calm and
the freedom to enjoy yourself.
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amy | September 15, 2008 at 10:58 am
I am a single mom, fostering to adopt(not finalized). I have been dating a man for 7 months who is almost everything I would want in a man and a dad. He loves my little girl like his own(oh he does not have any children and up until lately didn’t think he would want children in his life). He is taking things very slowly…we have already said the I love you’s to each other….and there is a sense of connection, EXCEPT he requires so much time by himself, we only get together One night during the week, and most of the time, but not always two nights on the weekend, hardly any daytime. He will come over around 6 and spend, for lack of better description, family time with Abbie and I. On the weekend he will spend an hour in the morning, sometimes a couple of hours with us, but then retreats to his house for alone time ( and all he says he does is sleep, which is to the best of my knowledge the sideeffect of depression medicine he takes), then he usually comes back that night and spends the night. We live about 20 min drive aways from each other. I tend to get into relationships too fast, and I am wondering, am I too worried about taking things faster, just on me, or shouldn’t this be progressing to where he wants to spend more time with us? He no longer invites us to his house, because I made the desision, about a month ago that we were no longer spending the night at his house ( Abbie never slept well, and I felt like it was too much on her). I do not know if I am sabotageing a good thing, or holding onto something doomed to nnot work?