Smarting About Your Divorce?
February 11, 2008 at 5:21 pm 7 comments
There is a way to have a smart divorce and move on in a healthier, less painful way. Hi, I’m Deborah Moskovitch, a divorce consultant and educator and author of
The Smart Divorce: Proven Strategies and Valuable Advice from 100 Top Divorce Lawyers, Financial Advisers, Counselors and Other Experts.
I created this blog for the same reason that I wrote the The Smart Divorce. I realized that most people going through divorce are confused and don’t know where to turn to for information. I learned that many people feel alone and are looking for some impartial advice. That is what I provide through “The Smart Divorce”—the understanding and education about the divorce process so that people can make decisions with confidence and move on with the rest of their lives – intact and without regret.
Use this blog as your support group, educator and guide. I invite you to share your comments, ideas, thoughts, concerns, feelings….anything and everything about divorce. You will see, you’re not alone. I also invite you to visit my website at www.thesmartdivorce.com. The secret to being smart about divorce means managing the emotional side and the legal side of divorce separately. If you can do this, you are likely to save time, trouble, and money on your way to a smart divorce and a better life. We have a responsibility to ourselves, our children, our future and their future. I look forward to hearing from you………Deborah
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Mandi Lowthian Smith | March 1, 2008 at 2:47 am
thanks for being there. You are right- divorce is so common that we underestimate the impact.
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Tina | March 3, 2008 at 1:51 am
I am in a position now where I will have to provide child support to the father of my only son. My son decided to live with his dad during the summer and refuses to see me outside of holidays his birthday and the odd dinner ( provided there is something in it for him). I am in a situation where the father is a very permissive parent and I am the bad parent for wanting structure and rules in place at my home. I gave my son chores and had expectations of him, I did not want him to just sit in front of the TV or computer or play station all the time so I was always trying to get him to help out and go to bed at a decent hour etc. One afternoon after a heated discussion about chores he called his dad and his dad came to pick him up without even dicussiing it with me. In any case, he wants back support since the summer, no application has been filed and I stoped FRO (he was paying) in the summer and after mediation in trying to get my son to councelling (did not suceed) no support form the ex on this issue, my ex wants me to pay child support as per table guidelines plus he wants monies owing back from July 07. If he takes me to court, what are the chances that I have to pay the back support. I don’t see my son on any scheduled time frame, (only at soccer games and practices).
Your comments are welcome. Missin my son terribly.
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Tina | March 3, 2008 at 1:53 am
P.S. My son will be 14 yesrs of age in March 08.
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The Smart Divorce | March 3, 2008 at 5:42 am
Dear Tina,
You are experiencing a very difficult situation. I urge you to seek legal counsel for advice as to the best way to handle the child support situation. You may also want to consider speaking with a parenting expert to help you implement the structure and guidance you feel your son needs. Parents need to understand what it means to put your children’s best interest first. If you feel that your son’s father has some difficulty with that, perhaps you could speak with someone together (maybe a parenting coordinator) to gain an understanding as to how to co-parent effectively, and to implement the parenting plan more precisely.
Deborah
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May | February 2, 2009 at 6:20 pm
Hello. I am in the process of contemplating a divorce for many reasons, although I’m pretty sure he’s cheated. We have no children, have been married for almost 9 years and the mortgage is paid off. I am the breadwinner although he has good earnings, approximately 75% of mine. What could be the potential of my having to pay alimony to him, if at all?
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The Smart Divorce | February 2, 2009 at 6:48 pm
As a divorce consultant I help my clients understand the divorce process. I strongly suggest that you consult with a family law lawyer to understand your rights and obligations.
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Fred | February 12, 2009 at 8:11 pm
Looking for a discussion group on Parent Cordinating in Ontario if possible? Looking for a good qualified professional?